The same concern can be expressed in ways that connect or create distance. This game helps you recognize the difference.
How It Works
You'll see a situation and two ways to respond
Pick the message that feels more supportive
Learn why certain phrases land differently
Round 1 of 8
The Situation
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Which response feels more supportive?
💡 Why This Matters
Great Listening!
You can recognize supportive language
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Supportive messages identified
🌟 Key Insight
The difference often isn't what you're asking about, it's how you ask. Questions that focus on the person (not the behavior) tend to feel more supportive.
The shift: From "What did you do?" to "How are you doing?"
🚫 Creates Distance
"Should you be eating that?"
"What did you eat?"
"That's a lot of carbs"
"Are you sure about that?"
Builds Connection
"How are you feeling?"
"Need anything?"
"What sounds good?"
"I'm here if you need me"
📝 Language Guide
Phrases to retire and phrases to try
🚫 Things NOT to Say About Food
"Should you be eating that?", Implies judgment
"That's a lot of carbs", They already know
"I thought you couldn't have...", Creates shame
"Are you sure that's okay?", Questions competence
"You're going to regret that", Future-shaming
"Just checking, did you...?", Monitoring disguised as care
Things to Say Instead
"How are you feeling?", Focuses on the person
"Need anything from the kitchen?", Offers help without judgment
"What sounds good tonight?", Collaborative
"Want company while you eat?", Presence over policing
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